Facebook: Remove If You Don’t Like

Author Ambrose Bierce humorously defines “happiness” as “an agreeable sensation arising from contemplating the misery of another.” Now, as we know, there is always a little truth in humor. For many, it is actually common to feel better about one’s self or one’s situation when facing the misfortunes of another. This is because it is more difficult to celebrate one’s own successes when another’s gains seem superior to our own. For example, How can I get that excited about my new Alto when my neighbor just bought a Swift?! Forget the fact that you are different people, with different experiences, backgrounds, and support systems. With most things, what it all boils down to are ‘Results’, and we can’t help but view our results differently, better or worse, when comparing them to those of our peers. Seems like this habit is just part of our human nature, and sort of reminiscent of the “Survival of the Fittest” theory in that we naturally strive to outlive or, in this case, out-success our competitors. In the past, these grand purchases and achievements would typically just be shared at parties, ceremonies, or through letters…
But now, there is FACEBOOK! With this online community, one’s happiness is immediately shared with the world via photos, wall posts, comments, likes, and more. Now you can see instantly when people are happy due to this rapid, in-your-face evidence on our computers – and even on our phones nowadays. News of others’ happiness is almost inescapable.
Of course, we want our friends to be happy, but Facebook isn’t just filled with our friends anymore. Let’s be real – we all have lots of acquaintances we met once on our profiles as well as people we actually do not even like anymore, such as exe or friends/husband of exe (whom we only keep in our contacts in order to keep abreast of what they are up to lately).
It just hurts sometimes to see people, especially people we don’t necessarily like, getting the things that we want in life; it reminds us that we haven’t achieved those accomplishments yet. Essentially, it’s not that their happiness depresses us; it’s that it reminds us of what we are missing in our own life. And this hinders us from enjoying the things we do have and appreciate right now! In the end, it’s better for our own success to hide the success of others, ironically. Otherwise, we feel like we are always behind in the game of life and not drumming to my own beat.
We must also admit that we get especially bitter if we feel the person doesn’t deserve great things because they are spoiled, mean, or undeserving in some other way. With that said, we are ecstatic when we see that our close friends and family members are doing well. This pleases us beyond belief, and we want to “Like” and “Comment” away on their statuses. Basically, when a good person in one’s close circle achieves success, he/she wants nothing more than to celebrate it. So, when we get bummed out by other people’s happiness on Facebook, know that it is for one of the following irrational reasons: (1) Someone has Upstaged our success making our accomplishment feel less. Thus, we need to recognize that we are our own person (2) Someone we do not like has achieved success. Accordingly, we must “Un-friend” this person because we shouldn’t remain connected online with someone we do not even respect in person (3) Someone has Achieved something that we want to accomplish ourself, so we need to learn from their journey toward success and let it inform our own progress toward our goals, not intimidate us.